We see pregnant celebrities out doing their thing all the time: photographed by paparazzi while getting a coffee or walking out of a grocery store, but it’s less common to see them actually performing while pregnant. As the Fox article points out, Joan Rivers, perhaps the mother of this movement, did stand-up on The Ed Sullivan Show when she was seven or eight months pregnant with Melissa, in 1967. She didn’t mention the pregnancy directly, and later said that plenty of critics thought she shouldn’t have been on television in her condition. I hate the cliche of, "Oh, well it was a different time." Anyone who says this: immediately cancelled, I am not here for excuses.
Over 50 years later, the rogue pregnant woman still warrants critique due to the rarity, even though for most professional performers, there’s no physical danger involved in working well into their pregnancies. We can list a few now of the female comedians who have performed, worked, and totally killed it while rocking a baby bump. These include Ali Wong, Amy Schumer, Amy Poehler, Tina Fey, and Maya Rudolph, just to name a few. Pregnant women have even graced the stage during musical performance such as Beyonce, Alicia Keys, and Cardi B. In the process of it all, these women have helped spark a broader conversation about the unique challenges faced by parents and parents-to-be in the performing arts – and their acute vulnerability to workplace discrimination. However, the problems facing these mothers simply do not end once the child is born. Lots of women tend to disappear from the spotlight to support a family, or because they are no longer seen as the right fit in their field. These women hope to normalize the maternal image and eliminate the taboo of an expectant mother on stage. I think we can get used to anything with a little bit of conditioning.
Childbearing is VITAL TO OUR EXISTENCE. So it makes me wonder why the heck it weirds people out. Backlash comments include that women are too delicate, or weak to perform. They should protect their bodies and the little vessel inside, not harm it by producing happiness for the mother and her audience! That would be insane! I'd argue that while pregnant a woman is at her strongest.
Our modern obsession with distended bellies containing fetal goop is just another excuse for the desire to control women's bodies. It's pretty hard for people to mind their own business when you might as well have someone following you around spinning a sign very loudly stating, "I AM A WOMAN." To reiterate, queens like Ali Wong and Beyonce want this to be normalized. If we can make eating Tide Pods a thing, we can get used to a woman working while pregnant.
Listen, I cannot stand that excuse, but even moreso I hate the excuse "they were raised in a different time" when someone old does something racist/homophobic/bigoted in any way. On top of that, when people say that "it was a different time", it really means nothing! Why? Because the same exact things are still happening today. We are talking about Wong being pregnant on stage precisely because it is so rare, Wong says as much in her special. Also, I love the title of this post. It is a perfect metaphor for pregnancy, while also being super hilarious.
ReplyDeleteJust like Izzy said, I hate that excuse. "It was a different time." Okay, grandma, give me back the phone, computer, and modern medicine. You didn't have a problem accepting those as the times changed, so let go of the racism, homophobia, and misogyny.
ReplyDeleteI also resent the opinion that "pregnant women are fragile." They're MAKING LIFE. I cannot think of anything TOUGHER. It is also crazy that we, as a society, STILL aren't comfortable around pregnant women, since it is the only thing that 100% has been happening since the beginning of time.
I also think its ridiculous that people still use the excuse of "they grew up in another time." That is such bullshit! The only thing that excuse does is validate and support racism, discrimination, and any other form of judgment from people who "grew up in another time." I loved your post, and I think it discussed topics that definitely should be normalized!
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