The Sex Talk: No it isn't what You think

*TW: MENTIONS OF RAPE*

Why are we so weirded out on the topic of masturbation, but yet so open in talking about sex? WHY?
An entire group of people can come together and talk about sex, spread word about how important consent is, healthy relationships with sexual partners and staying away from HIV and STD's, etc. Though, when masturbation is brought up the conversation often comes to a standstill.

You know who never has to worry not getting consent  before "Doin' it?" YOU with yourself. You know what you don't have to worry about when you use sex toys or just going old fashioned and using you to pleasure yourself?! (Either works.) Getting STD's and other nasty ass diseases from someone else. 

I will admit, I've always been nervous talking about the subject. Maybe it's because I was raped as a child and have been sexually assaulted by men growing up? I'm unsure. 
Anyway, I will say though, through my late teen years I started learning not to feel guilty about masturbation, learning what it was exactly, etc. and let me tell you how much of a weight that lifted off my chest. It's been GREAT.
I still face trauma and have flashbacks from many things but I've learned to push it out of my mind during these situations because I too, deserve to enjoy myself just as everyone deserves the same.
In the podcast episode "Best Of: Zoodles", Phoebe along with her guest star (that I can't remember the name of, I do apologize) speak on the topic of masturbation for about 5-10 minutes. Kudos to these two beautiful women for being so confident in bringing up the subject, but while I listened to it twice I noticed the changes in their tone of voice when talking about it. They were extremely open with talking about the subject and sex toys (vibrators to be more specific) and their personal experiences, but they were giggly to say the least. This is how I realized they weren't 100% comfortable with the subject and speaking on it. Maybe I'm wrong but from their change in tones, it made it seem like they were even just the slightest bit uncomfortable. It was a comedy show though and I defenitely laughed during this portion of the episode, so they did a wonderful job bringing humor into the topic while also attempting to have a normal conversation about it.
For example, when (don't shoot me if I get this wrong) but I believe it was Phoebe, anyway, she started talking about using her vibrator and was very shy and uncomfortable at mentioning porn or "purn" as they both stated it softlly. Personally, I don't watch it but each to their own, back to my point.
Although I think these ladies are amazing at bringing the word of masturbation to a large audience, there is so much more we can do to normalize the conversation so we don't have to feel guilty or uncomfortable talking about "purn", or masturbation.

Lastly, why can "jerking off" so commonly brought up but (oh no here it comes again), female masturbation be so stigmatized? I hear guys talk about "jerking off" on a daily, but again when females talk about it and it's overheard we are often laughed at or cat-called by men. WHAT THE FUCK GUYS.
I'm not saying just all men do it, I'm sure other females do it to one another, but it is more common that men make it a big deal when it's directed toward  females. I am also someone that's been spoken to like I'm so different for bringing up masturbation when my guy friends can do it whenever they want and receive no judgement for doing so. 

Let's normalize the conversation guys. 
Thanks for coming to my TED talk.